Mom recently had a pastor in another nation write her. He had committed adultery with his best friend's wife. He had not told anyone yet, and asked for her advice. Wow. That doesn't happen to us every day! What would you have said? Here is what she told him. (Pray for this man.)
My family and I are
praying for you.
First please
take time to prayerfully read and listen to the messages on this link. This
helps someone to know their true spiritual condition as God sees it.
http://illbehonest.com/biblical-gospel
Operation World states that of
those who claim to be believers in {your nation}, sadly only 10% are truly
converted. So I always ask a person to examine themselves [read 2 Corinthians
13:5], and if needed ask a mature believer to speak with you to see if you are
genuinely converted. Many pastors are NOT yet converted. I read the testimony
of a pastor's wife who was an evangelist for many years. 12 years after being
married to her pastor husband, she came to genuine repentance and faith in
Jesus.
Now as to what the Bible teaches regarding what to do with this sin you have
committed. You must repent, trust Christ and be born again of the Spirit of God
if this is not your true condition. After this, you can ask and receive
forgiveness from God.
We are forgiven because of what Jesus did on the cross... Jesus took the full
wrath of God against our sins... and the blood of Jesus cleanses us from all
sins. Our faith is in the Person of Jesus, not in our prayer or confession of
sins.
You must also confess this sin to the ones you have sinned against.
This includes the husband of the woman you slept with, your friend... also your
wife.
You must also resign as pastor for a time until you work through what is
needed to be restored. According to the teaching of 1 Timothy 2 and Titus 2,
you no longer meet the Biblical requirements for an elder [pastor]. This means
to notify the man coming from {another country} that you will not be part of the
planned crusade. If you are part of a network of pastors, they need to be told.
You don't need to tell them who is the woman. You do need to confess adultery.
The idea here is to get under the authority of local Godly men who will help
you rebuild your marriage and your life.
God forgives all sin, even adultery. However you need to think seriously about
the teaching in 1 Corinthians 6 as well as following chapters. It may take a
very long time to rebuild trust.
There are sometimes bitter and lasting consequences to such a grievous sin.
Proverbs 28:13 gives advice
about if we should keep silent about our sins. "People who conceal their
sins will not prosper,
but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy. "
Psalm 51 is the prayer/confession of King David after he committed adultery
with Bathsheba.
Psalm 32:1-4 is also a good place to read. Here in English:
(NIV)
Blessed is the one
whose transgressions are forgiven,
whose sins are covered.
2 Blessed is the one
whose sin the LORD does not count against them
and in whose spirit is no deceit.
3 When I kept silent,
my bones wasted away
through my groaning all day long.
4 For day and night
your hand was heavy on me;
my strength was sapped
as in the heat of summer.
James 5 tells us how to
confess our sins to others.
So, first look at website above. If you are NOT sure you are true child of God,
please contact us.
We love you and are praying you will come through this time once again doing
the work of the Kingdom.