What to tell an adulterous pastor?

Mom recently had a pastor in another nation write her.  He had committed adultery with his best friend's wife.  He had not told anyone yet, and asked for her advice.  Wow.  That doesn't happen to us every day!  What would you have said?  Here is what she told him.  (Pray for this man.)

My family and I are praying for you. 

First please take time to prayerfully read and listen to the messages on this link. This helps someone to know their true spiritual condition as God sees it.
http://illbehonest.com/biblical-gospel

Operation World states that of those who claim to be believers in {your nation}, sadly only 10% are truly converted. So I always ask a person to examine themselves [read 2 Corinthians 13:5], and if needed ask a mature believer to speak with you to see if you are genuinely converted. Many pastors are NOT yet converted. I read the testimony of a pastor's wife who was an evangelist for many years. 12 years after being married to her pastor husband, she came to genuine repentance and faith in Jesus.

Now as to what the Bible teaches regarding what to do with this sin you have committed. You must repent, trust Christ and be born again of the Spirit of God if this is not your true condition. After this, you can ask and receive forgiveness from God.

We are forgiven because of what Jesus did on the cross... Jesus took the full wrath of God against our sins... and the blood of Jesus cleanses us from all sins. Our faith is in the Person of Jesus, not in our prayer or confession of sins.

You must also confess this sin to the ones you have sinned against. This includes the husband of the woman you slept with, your friend... also your wife. 

You must also resign as pastor for a time until you work through what is needed to be restored. According to the teaching of 1 Timothy 2 and Titus 2, you no longer meet the Biblical requirements for an elder [pastor]. This means to notify the man coming from {another country} that you will not be part of the planned crusade. If you are part of a network of pastors, they need to be told. You don't need to tell them who is the woman. You do need to confess adultery. The idea here is to get under the authority of local Godly men who will help you rebuild your marriage and your life.
God forgives all sin, even adultery. However you need to think seriously about the teaching in 1 Corinthians 6 as well as following chapters. It may take a very long time to rebuild trust.
There are sometimes bitter and lasting consequences to such a grievous sin. 

Proverbs 28:13 gives advice about if we should keep silent about our sins. "People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy. "

Psalm 51 is the prayer/confession of King David after he committed adultery with Bathsheba.
 

Psalm 32:1-4 is also a good place to read. Here in English:

(NIV)

Blessed is the one
whose transgressions are forgiven,
whose sins are covered.
² Blessed is the one
whose sin the LORD does not count against them
and in whose spirit is no deceit.

³ When I kept silent,
my bones wasted away
through my groaning all day long.
⁴ For day and night
your hand was heavy on me;
my strength was sapped
as in the heat of summer.

James 5 tells us how to confess our sins to others.

So, first look at website above. If you are NOT sure you are true child of God, please contact us.

Next, you need to confess this sin to a local Godly pastor who will walk with you as you will need to: resign from being a pastor, confess and ask forgiveness of the husband of the woman, confess and ask forgiveness from your wife, put yourself under a pastor who is trained to help people get restored to wife and to understand what is God saying to you now.

Here is a message from a Godly pastor on the subject of what has happened in your life.
http://www.desiringgod.org/resource-library/ask-pastor-john/is-it-possible-to-restore-a-pastor-who-has-sinned-sexually

We love you and are praying you will come through this time once again doing the work of the Kingdom.